So, I’m going to be brutally honest. For the last several months I’ve felt extreme overwhelm. The little ones and I have finally gotten into a grove, and I’m proud of the mom I am- but incorporating all the other things into my life (and there are a ton of “other things”) has been difficult. Yes, I give myself grace when it comes to our home being clean, or looking put together- and I know that any work I can possibly get done should feel like an accomplishment. Even so, I WANT to be able to tackle things on my list, have decent self care and feel like I still have an outlet to be creative- even if it isn’t the full time job it used to be. Can anyone relate? It can be hard crossing things off your to-do list when your time to be productive is so limited.
I’ve decided to get conversations going with women/moms I really look up to, and share it all here. I think one of the best things to do when you’re feeling overwhelm is take it to your tribe, then listen, learn and be encouraged.
I actually found Corie Clark on Instagram. She’s a wife, mom, author, educator and the creator of Purposeful Tools. She’s dedicated to helping people find peace and purpose throughout their journey. I’ve been so inspired by her Simplicity Challenge and I love her products (corieclark.com). Her planners are absolutely gorgeous, and have the coolest features. I just ordered to marble mid-year.
I reached out to her asking if she’d be open for an interview/therapy session- and she graciously accepted. Her words gave me such inspiration and peace. Hearing from someone on the other end always feels good, doesn’t it? Here’s what she had to say:
Knocking Out Your To-Do List With Little Ones
When my kids were younger, I would schedule things pretty lightly. The truth is, when you have littles, nothing is consistent. I would make a running to-do list and just take baby steps at tackling it. Setting a timer is a life-saver. Set your timer for 15 minutes and just get something done. If your kids are really young and you’ll be interrupted set it for 5 or 10 minutes. And if you get interrupted just tell them they need to wait for the timer to go off! There is so much you can accomplish in 15 minutes!
Dealing With Mom Guilt
Mom guilt is so real. It’s something I still battle whenever I do something for myself. But, to be sure that my kids don’t feel neglected, I plan other fun things to do with them. If we head to the beach one day, they’re not going to care if I go get a mani/pedi the next. Honestly, your kids won’t remember every little detail when they grow up. They’ll remember a loving happy mom if she’s taken care of herself. My kids are so much better off because I take care of myself. It gives me more patience and energy for the important things.
I think one of the most unrecognized hurdles is perfectionism. We procrastinate and procrastinate because we want something to be perfect so we just don’t do it. I love this quote from Jon Acuff, “90 percent perfect and shared with the world always changes more lives than 100 percent perfect and stuck in your head.”
Keeping Your Head Above Water
For that mama that feels like she’s drowning, she just needs to start to saying no. Stop trying to be everything to everyone. Take a deep breath. Take some time for yourself. And just keep taking baby steps. You’ll get to where you want to be if you just keep going.
My best advice is to just remember that whatever you’re going through right now, it’s just a season. It might feel like it’s never going to end. But it will. And you’ll have to find new ways to find margin all over again. The better we get at looking at our lives and knowing where we need to change, the easier it becomes and then those transitions into new seasons aren’t too hard to handle. Give yourself grace and just keep moving. You’ve got this!
You can follow Corie on Instagram @corieclark
Check out her website for amazing products and available classes
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What are your biggest hurdles in productivity? What do you struggle with in terms of balance? Let me know in the comments or over on my Instagram, and I’ll make sure to touch on it in a future post.